~2011, A post to begin but not sure will it last~

So, here I am...with a random post again...I am not in the very good mood for blogging but I have this interesting thing to share (at least interesting to me)...I welcome all comments and critics as it is a hugely debatable issue~~

I'm going to talk about Positive Selfishness vs Negative Selfishness - I won't call this a theory but it's a concept I explored and discovered throughout my 22 years of life ^^

Positive Selfishness

Well, I will make this short...what I mean here is that WE (YES WE ALL!!!) are selfish in nature...believe it or not, we are...no point denying it...so, let's see how I define this:

1) We are being selfish because we are trying to think of others (might be empathy or sympathy) - HOW? Example: When organizing a party, why some people are excluded? It may be because the group hates the people or felt discomfort with them...I know it sounds negative but don't you all see it happening all the time? Even to me, myself...Think again peeps~~

2) We are being selfish because we are trying to protect our goals, principles and bla bla bla. Example: Why would someone still lend money to a person (be it relative, acquaintances or anyone) when he/she knows that it involves a crazily high risk? YES, some may be forced to do it but what do you think about those who weren't forced? Being a helpful soul, some might really want to help because they feel it satisfies them in doing so..the joy or feeling that heightened up their self-esteem or so (No point debating as everyone has their own viewpoint so alot people might disagree with me, but what I want to say is THIS KIND OF PEOPLE DO EXIST, hence the behaviour as well)

3) We are being selfish because like it or not, it will win people's trust. Example: The honorable Mr. Lim Goh Tong..why would he be so selfish to not listening to other's viewpoints in buying the whole hill in the view of building GENTING? Some of you might say it's bold/bravery...or stupidity or whatsoever and see it as not a SELFISH act..Imagine you are his friend and he told you so...and you tried so hard to convince him but he still did it..IT'S STILL A SELFISH ACT as he did not even care about what others say..BUT you see how successful he is...and he gained all the reputation and trust from everyone...A BOLD/BRAVE ACT can be an act of SELFISHNESS but in a very POSITIVE way...I'm still far from reaching this level but peeps, LEARN FROM THIS..SELFISH IS NOT ALWAYS BAD when you do it POSITIVELY.

Negative Selfishness

1) People engage in this because they just think of their own benefits and so. Example: Some people really just want to piss others off by complaining about a surprise party thrown on them...come on, people tried so hard to throw a surprise for you...just appreciate it, or else why do they want to do it in the first place? They are trying to make these people happy and yet they got smack on their face just like that...can this be deemed NOT SELFISH NEGATIVELY?

2) People engage in this because they feel that it makes them superior. Example: Some people just want to help others (assignment, charity or so) because they feel doing so will make them getting all the respect and thus, they will feel like having a GODLY status. It really may have seemed quite good..but let's analyze this deeper, they help others just because they can achieve what is deemed as SUPERIOR to them...so are they really honest about the help? Are they putting all the effort in doing so? YES, some may really do so because of their principles and so..I admit those who do so deserve a big round of applause BUT what about those who don't?!?!

Well, I do not want to delve into this too deep as I know alot people might feel intimidated, hurt, aggrieved or so with me...I don't mind because I know this will certainly evoke various responses~~I am just telling the truth here...

THE EVIDENCE? Look around your friends and family...start analyzing...because all of you have or will validate this concept of mine..I don't even need to do show anyone...

P.S: I do admit I do practice NEGATIVE SELFISHNESS at times but I am more into POSITIVE SELFISHNESS...some may not agree with me..but I can tell you what I have done is all about my values and principles...and I dare to stand firm on this because IT IS EASIER SAID THAT DONE but I HAVE DONE IT =) AND STILL DOING IT~~